Hi, I would like to ask about something that has been making me very uncomfortable. I have been living with my aunt for 1 year now. We live together in a house with her youngest daughter (15) while her husband and her oldest daughter (25) live in another country. My uncle thinks she would be too tired of driving and taking care of all the housework by herself, both decided to re-hire a male helper that previously worked for them for 4 years (when her husband still lives in town). Because this man is from a foreign country and does not have a place to stay, my aunt offers him to live with us to help her take care of the house as well as a driver. Her husband approves because this man has a good history of working with the family.

It has been a month since he was hired and I’ve been very uncomfortable having this man around the house. Ever since her husband moves out of town again for work, she has been getting too close to this man to a level where she is treating him more in a very friendly manner rather than in a professional worker and employer relationship. Every time I see them together, he acts like he is a part of the family which made me and other family members like her daughter and my other aunt very uncomfortable. Here are some things that I think are not appropriate for them to do together:

• I would catch them cooking, talking, joking and laughing just the 2 of them over the counter, in the kitchen for hours (almost every day looking like a couple).
• They would watch Netflix at night in the living room on the couch together. They're not cuddling but looking at them watching Netflix just the 2 of them is already too intimate for an employer-and-employee relationship.
• They would pick up her daughter from school together. Even her daughter told her it was uncomfortable because every time they do that, her friends would ask her if the man is her mom’s boyfriend. She told her to stop but my aunt keep doing it anyways.
• My aunt would cut fruits for him to eat and he would eat with us together during breakfast and dinner together where it was supposed to be family time.

• They would go somewhere just the two of them to run errands and I don't know where because they would be back late.
• My aunt would allow him to use her oldest daughter’s things like water bottles and such. (Her oldest daughter doesn't know)
• Every time she has an errand to run like dropping something at the post office, she would ask him to do it, but for some reason, she comes with him too and she always sits in the passenger seat instead of the backseat.

What I’m confused too is that she hires him to do the housework and drive and pick up her daughter from school but she always comes with her every time. She hires him to do her errands but she comes with him and instead does it together. And when my other cousin moves out from the house lifting 12 heavy boxes to the van, he doesn't offer to help and just stands there looking at me and her struggling. Shouldn’t he at least offer to because that is what he is paid to do? And now that my aunt has a business trip out of town, he acts like he can do whatever he wants like watching Netflix with my aunt’s account. My other aunt has discussed this with her telling her that this isn’t appropriate and unprofessional while her husband is out of town and does not know the little details of the things they do together. But my aunt ignored her and keep doing it.

I don’t know if this is cheating but what do you guys think I should do? Is this normal? Because not only me as a niece uncomfortable with the situation but her daughter has hinted to her several time that she is too because she has been spending more time with this man than her own daughter. While her husband does not see what we see every day so he thinks it’s just fine. Should we stop them before this develops into something more? Should we be worried about their behaviour? Because for a man and a woman to be spending time with each other every second of the day could develop into a feeling of comfort, fondness, and even romance.