I’m going to keep it short because I’m typing on phone. Today I found out that my wife (37) has been sexting my dad (61) for the past few weeks. We have two young kids. My mom and dad are divorced and my wife, kids and I are always hanging out with my dad. I accidentally came across it today via his phone when I was trying to fix an app for him and a message from my wife under a fake contact name popped up. I went to his contacts and confirmed my wife’s phone number then started reading through the texts. I only had about 15-20 seconds before he came back for his phone but I already saw him sending shiftless photos and the two commenting emojis about how hot their bodies are and how she’s his girlfriend and I need to move out, etc. I panicked and left the scene but didn’t reveal I saw this. I immediately called my mom because I couldn’t breath or feel my body.

My mom came over to my dads house and we confronted them about it and of course you can assuming how it went. After talking more with my wife, it started as friendly then got more intimate to the point they were texting all day long and my dad was sending countless dick pics and she was sending sexy selfies, including bras and even a topless photo. My wife called herself his girlfriend in the texts I saw and she says my dad calls her his girlfriend. According to her, my dad was asking for more nudes of her vagina and making comments about performing oral sex and even that they should basically be together or marry each other. We are all supposed to go on vacation next week to the beach and my dad was texting about how hard it will be to see her and he needs to “drain his balls”.

They claim nothing physical happened yet but they both insinuated that it would have probably progressed to that. Again, it’s only been 3 weeks but seems like things progressed very fast already. I found she was searching wineries and a local mountain restaurant just yesterday probably to go there with my dad.

My wife says she was just doing it to make my dad happy because he’s lonely and he’s nice to her and like a father figure since she doesn’t have a good relationship with her parents. She commented that I got fat and my dad has a fit body and I’m mean to her.

For some reason I have been very calm about the situation but I don’t know what I should do about my wife and our future. We have two young boys and I don’t want them to have separated parents. Just looking for opinions and conversation as I figure out my next move. That particular post was posted 10 months ago (almost a year ago). In it, I talked about discovering my wife (now, ex-wife) was willingly sleeping with her father. And how, at the time, the whole experience had me initially questioning my sanity because the reality was too much to accept.

For the 2 years I have been on Reddit, I have occasionally talked about my ex-wife. It was one of the last things my therapist told me could be helpful, writing about what I know. The reason why I have decided to re-share this post today is that my ex-wife has resurfaced. More to the point, after 13 years of being separated and divorced, she is now wrongfully asking for child support for children that are not even mine. I do not know who fathered children with my ex-wife, and I never cared once I discovered they were not mine. But there was always the possibility they could have been her father's.

The day after Thanksgiving (November 26, 2021), I became aware that there had been a court hearing that I had not been previously aware of. Not surprisingly, the court is through South Carolina, and I am in Massachusetts. I recall she once told me that if she ever wanted to give me legal problems concerning the children, she would do it through South Carolina. Because of their "zero-tolerance policies" (her words). She made that threat before I knew the kids were not mine, but after she had shown her true colors.

The fact remains, like any abuser, she did not start out showing any warning signs. I can still recall the 1st time she became abusive. I had pulled a double shift at working (16-18 hours) and came home feeling exhausted. I remember making a sandwich and, when done, putting the plate into the sink without washing it. Again, I was exhausted, and it was only a single plate. What harm could that be? As I slept, my wife carefully placed one of the kitchen chairs over my head. So, when you put some thought into it, we are talking about 4 narrow points that make up the legs of a kitchen chair. So, not a lot of surface area makes contact with the mattress. In addition, some kitchen chairs have a narrow runner or support between the legs (yours may or may not, depending on the style, but mine did). Rested over my head, they came down just low enough to be a little above my neck, but since nothing was yet making contact, I still did not notice.

Before this moment in time, my wife acted and seemed normal. I have had years to look back and ask myself, what made that moment any different from any other. I was often trying to find a reason, cause, or justification for the madness that became my life. The best explanation I came up with back then was that my wife had been suffering from an extreme case of postpartum depression since this took place after her son's birth. Now, knowing better, I do not look for excuses to justify her behavior, as there is none.

But to further digress. I recall when she made this threat, she pointed out how her uncle lived there. And how easy it would be for her and her family to give the appearance of her living there. And that it would only take a few months out of the year to establish and maintain a physical address. More so, as of not too recently (a month or so), I know she is here in Massachusetts. The town she lives in, her road, which is a main one-way street, is the road to get over the mountain to my town. Being a passenger in Uber, Lyft, and the local taxi company, means they tend to take the shortest route. I have seen her out front as the taxi drove on through town.

So it has come to pass the woman who was having an affair with her father, who raped me whenever she felt like doing so, who often threatened me with wrongful legal action, and who made me her punching bag, is once again finding amusement in tormenting me... Even 13 years later. -- So, how's your day going, everyone?