My boyfriend of two years and I don't use condoms—I’m on birth control, and we have never used them once in our entire relationship. Recently, while looking for Advil in his medicine cabinet, I stumbled upon a box of condoms. I didn't snoop, but finding them completely threw me off balance.

When I confronted him about it, his explanations didn't add up. He claimed he didn't know he had them, that he's bought condoms before but it's been a while, and repeatedly insisted he has "no recollection." What makes it impossible to shake is that I contacted Trojan customer service with the lot number; they confirmed the box was manufactured in September 2024, meaning they were likely purchased around January or February 2025—well into our exclusive relationship.

I am left struggling to make sense of this without ignoring obvious red flags. Is there any legitimate reason someone in a committed relationship would have a fresh box of condoms purchased during their relationship if they never use them together? Vague explanations and manufactured timelines make it hard not to suspect the worst.